I
was always troubled by thoughts, and the uppermost thought was “why me? “ Why
do I have so many obstacles for getting love? As a person I am very confident
but when life gets me into the situation of love my confidence just flows out
of me. Then these questions, why do I fear? What is it that I fear for?
Sometimes when I have reached the goal I also have second thought, which I
assumed was my failing and NO one must be facing this situation.
But all my questions were answered when i read the book ‘The Alchemist’ by Paul
Coelho, he has penned and answered questions which always daunted me.
Sharing
below his thoughts…..
Whenever
we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend.
However; we don’t all have the courage to confront our dreams why?
There are four obstacles.
First,
we are told from childhood onwards that everything we want to do is impossible.
We grow up with this idea, and as the years accumulate, so too do the layers of
prejudice,fear,guilt.There comes a time when our personal calling is so deeply
buried in our soul as to be enviable. But it’s still there.If we have the
courage to disinter our dreams, we are then faced by
The
second obstacle Love. We know what we want to do, but are afraid of hurting
those round us by abandoning everything in order to pursue our dream. We do not
realize that love is just a further impetus not something that will prevent us
going forward, and that those who genuinely wish us well want us to be happy
and are prepared to accompany us on that journey. Once we have accepted that life
is a stimulus,
We
come against the third obstacle: fear of the defeats we will meet on the path.
We who fight for our dreams suffer far more when it doesn’t work out, because
we cannot fall back on the old excuse, ”Oh, well, I didn’t really want it anyway.”
We do want it and know that we have staked everything on it and that the path
of the personal calling is no easier than any other path except that our whole
heart is in this journey. Then we warriors of light must be prepared to have
patience in difficult times and to know that the Universe is conspiring in our favor,
even though we may not understand how.
I
ask myself, are defeats’ necessary? Well, necessary or not, they happen. When
we first began fighting for our dream, we have no experience and make many
mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up
eight times.
So, why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to
suffer more than other people? Because once we have overcome the defeats-and we
always do-we are filled with a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the
silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the
miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to
live with enthusiasm and pleasure.Intense,unexpected suffering passes more
quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable, the latter goes on for
years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until one day, we are
no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for
the rest of our lives.
Having
disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent
many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that what we always wanted
is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day.
Then
comes the fourth obstacle: the feat of realizing the dream for which we have
been fighting all our lives.
Oscar
Wilde said, “Each man kills the thing, he loves. “And it’s true. The mere
possibility of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with
quilt. We look around at all those who have failed to get what they want and
feel that we do not deserve t o get what we want either. We forget about all
the obstacles we overcome, all the suffering we endured, all the things we had
to give up in order to get this far. I have known a lot of people who, when
their personal calling was within their grasp, went on to commit a series of
stupid mistakes and never reached their goal when it was only a step away.
This is the most dangerous of the obstacles
because it has a kind of saintly aura about it, renouncing joy and conquest.
But if you believe yourself worth of the thing you fought so hard to get, then
you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World, and you understand
why you are here.
This book has really helped me in getting answers .. but am still wondering :)
